Broken Links?

If you click on a link in a page or post and receive an error, the old blog started with www.gettingpastyourbreakup.com/gettingpastyourpast/page or post name.  THIS blog does not have the /gettingpastyourpast subdirectory so if you just take that out (to make it www.gettingpastyourbreakup.com/page or post name), it should work.

 

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Support Group

Thank you for stopping by. If you are reading the book and found your way here, we have moved the commenting section of the blog to a CLOSED Facebook support group which is a strong, tightly-knit support group.  New posts will appear here regularly, but to join in discussion or just read from like-minded people, join the FB group.
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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode 22

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Female Stalking Victims: Emma Walker

I am doing an upcoming podcast on Female Stalking Victims, leading off with the murder of Emma Walker as reported by Dateline earlier this week.

I did one on Male Stalking Victims (leading off with Travis Alexander and Ryan Poston) in Episode 19 HERE 

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Blog Move = Broken Links (the longer version of the above explanation)

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 21 Show Notes

Welcome to the

Mean Lady Talking Podcast

This episode is MORE

Talking About Grief and Unresolved Losses

This is the podcast that tackles tough questions about

relationships, life, love and loss.

The Mean Lady Podcast is hosted by grief therapist, motivational speaker, best-selling author and attorney, Susan J. Elliott

To see a list of all episodes with links to each episode’s Show Notes, go HERE

For a list of all places to listen to and subscribe to the podcast scroll down to the bottom of this post

To see all episodes and to subscribe via iTunes go HERE


Show Notes for Episode Number 21

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 20 Show Notes

Welcome to the

Mean Lady Talking Podcast

This episode is MORE

Talking About Dating, Standards and Compatibility Inventory

This is the podcast that tackles tough questions about

relationships, life, love and loss.

The Mean Lady Podcast is hosted by grief therapist, motivational speaker, best-selling author and attorney, Susan J. Elliott

To see a list of all episodes with links to each episode’s Show Notes, go HERE

For a list of all places to listen to and subscribe to the podcast scroll down to the bottom of this post

To see all episodes and to subscribe via iTunes go HERE


Show Notes for Episode Number 20

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 19 Show Notes

stalkingWelcome to the

Mean Lady Talking Podcast

This episode is

Talking About Male Stalking Victims

1/3 of all stalking victims are men.   It is TOO LARGE a number to ignore the fact that we have not accommodated them in the legal system and have not protected them as they should.  This podcast is for Travis Alexander and Ryan Poston.

The Mean Lady Podcast is hosted by grief therapist, motivational speaker, best-selling author and attorney, Susan J. Elliott

To see a list of all episodes with links to each episode’s Show Notes, go HERE

For a list of all places to listen to and subscribe to the podcast scroll down to the bottom of this post

To see all episodes and to subscribe via iTunes go HERE


Show Notes for Episode Number 19

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 18 Show Notes

Mean Lady Talking PodcastWelcome to the

Mean Lady Talking Podcast

This episode is Talking About Self-Esteem!

This is the podcast that tackles tough questions about relationships, life, love and loss.

The Mean Lady Podcast is hosted by grief therapist, motivational speaker, best-selling author and attorney, Susan J. Elliott

To see a list of all episodes with links to each episode’s Show Notes, go HERE

For a list of all places to listen to and subscribe to the podcast scroll down to the bottom of this post

To see all episodes and to subscribe via iTunes go HERE

Show Notes for Episode Number 18

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Dear Bananahead (or Bananaheadette)

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed.

It’s been almost five years since I first wrote this and I get a request for it every few months, so here it is again:

bananaheadThis is a convenient cut and paste for everyone who wants to go back to/stay with/can’t stop thinking about a bananahead. Simply cut and paste in the areas that apply to your situation and then either email it to the bananahead or, better yet, print it out and soak it with tears and then send it in real mail. Don’t forget the hearts and kisses.
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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 17 Show Notes

Mean Lady Talking PodcastWelcome to the

Mean Lady Talking Podcast

This episode is Talking About Navigating the Legal System with the Personality Disordered

This is the podcast that tackles tough questions about relationships, life, love and loss.

 

The Mean Lady Podcast is hosted by grief therapist, motivational speaker, media commentator, best-selling author and attorney, Susan J. Elliott

To see a list of all episodes, complete with a player listing all episodes, go HERE

To see all episodes and to subscribe via iTunes go HERE

Show Notes for Episode Number 17

Dealing with the Personality Disordered and the Legal System Part 2

 

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 16 Show Notes

Mean Lady Talking PodcastWelcome to the

Mean Lady Talking Podcast

This episode is Talking About Listener Mail About Standards and Compatibility!  This episode explains the GPYB concept of the “3 a.m. person”

This is the podcast that tackles tough questions about relationships, life, love and loss.

The Mean Lady Podcast is hosted by grief therapist, motivational speaker, media commentator, best-selling author and attorney, Susan J. Elliott

To see a list of all episodes, complete with a player listing all episodes, go HERE

To see all episodes and to subscribe via iTunes go HERE

Show Notes for Episode Number 16

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 15 Show Notes

Mean Lady Talking PodcastWelcome to the

Mean Lady Talking Podcast

This episode is Talking About The Aftermath of a Breakup With A Narcissist

This is the podcast that tackles tough questions about relationships, life, love and loss.

The Mean Lady Podcast is hosted by grief therapist, motivational speaker, best-selling author and attorney, Susan J. Elliott

To see a list of all episodes, complete with a player listing all episodes, go HERE

To see all episodes and to subscribe via iTunes go HERE

Show Notes for Episode Number 15

Breaking Up With A Narcissist 

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When Loneliness Leads You Back to a Bad Relationship

lonelinessby Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed.

Also called “Good Sex in Bad Relationships”


One of the first steps of recovery is to develop a full life for yourself. Nothing happens until that occurs. Have a plan what to do if you get lonely so you don’t do the disasterous ‘Drink and Dial!’ Or you don’t do the ‘Daydream and Dial.’ HE’S NOT DIFFERENT! Nothing has changed! Learn to build a great life and avoid the risk factor of loneliness.” ~ Sandra Brown

As many of you know, I am the owner and moderator of a Yahoo Women Who Love Too Much list. I post there and here and have some members from there over here but that group is not open to men and GPYP has a larger-than-usual number of men who post here and attend the seminars (about 30 to 40 percent which is a LARGE number for any self-help group). And the men I’ve met at the seminars and through the blog and email group are some of the nicest men I’ve ever known. And they are thankful for a gender-neutral place to share and be a part of because I think that most breakup books and sites are geared specifically to women. So most of the GPYP material is gender neutral AND I made a big point of making sure the Getting Past Your Breakup book is not gender, sexual orientation, or age specific. It is very important to me for it to be inclusive.

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It’s Important to Believe You Can Heal after a Breakup

Suicide is a real threat when you don’t believe you can get over it.

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed.

Copyright 2007-2018

Every few months I read an article about someone who committed suicide after a breakup or a person who went on a shooting rampage after a breakup.  I originally wrote this post for Psychology Today which is an institution that believes that nameless, faceless cyberbullies are more important than people who are abused or feeling suicidal. So I am rerunning it here: 

I urge people to spread the word that a breakup is a temporary thing and that you can get over it.  Let people know that a breakup is NOT the end of the world.  The only thing that is the end of the world is the end of the world. We’ve all gone through breakups. Some of us before we reach teenagehood. Many of us many times.  The pain may seem enormous, but it can and does heal.

I’ve been doing breakup counselling a long time and I have gotten, several times a year, a call or an email from someone saying, “I’m not getting over it.  I will never get over this.”

This week I read another sad story about someone ending their life because they were bereft over a breakup. I had a family member (in law) whose brother killed himself when his girlfriend left. When I was an Emergency Services Clinician, I ran into many who were feigning suicide to get attention from an ex. Many clinicians would say that people who commit suicide don’t threaten it, they just do it.  But I have seen people do it after threatening and others who showed absolutely no clues and they just did it. Continue reading

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 14 Show Notes

Mean Lady Talking PodcastWelcome to the

Mean Lady Talking Podcast

This episode is Talking About

Current Mail on the Aftermath of a Breakup and being Angry and Hurt

and Not Forgiving Yourself

This is the podcast that tackles tough questions about relationships, life, love and loss. The Mean Lady Podcast is hosted by grief therapist, motivational speaker, best-selling author and attorney, Susan J. Elliott

To see a list of all episodes, complete with a player listing all episodes, go HERE

To see all episodes and to subscribe via iTunes go HERE

Show Notes for Episode Number 14

The Aftermath of Breaking Up With A Narcissist First in a Series of 3

(this is a separate system from Navigating the Legal System with the Personality Disordered)

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