Registration

Believe it or not we have hundreds of registrations a day and 99 percent of them are from spammers! Please email me at sj_elliott AT verizon DOT net if you register and I will approve you. If you are not approved within the day, email me again here or on FB. I want everyone to be able to participate so PLEASE let me know you have registered and I will approve you!!!!

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8/19 Check in Thread

How is everyone doing?

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Women’s Guide To Dating

New ebook: Many moons ago I wrote a post, Being Unavailable versus Playing a Game for women who are dating. I was including it in the new book, but it didn’t flow so I am writing an entire book about the balance in dating for women. Right now I am making the chapter available for purchase if you are interested. Because it’s part of a package to sell the book I can’t keep the material on the blog for free, but wanted to make it available. It is 32 pages and if you purchase it, you will receive updates to it as they come out (I’m working feverishly on it. :) Would also like feedback if you want to give it. Thanks all. ebook is 9.99 and will be sent in .pdf format.





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Workbook and Bootcamp

Website is back up…fixed a few glitches.

two things: workbook still on sale (see 2 posts down) and I am starting a new bootcamp at the request of a former bootcamper. Bootcamp is 6 weeks long and will start 9/1. I have several people interested and will limit it. The bootcamp is based on the book and the workbook. You will receive the workbook as part of the bootcamp.

If you are intererted please email me at sj_elliott AT verizon DOT net or PM me versus one of the FB groups and pages.

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Stepping Out of the Dance

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Over the past few years people have invited me to different support groups and events to speak. When the organizers want me to start with my story this is something I never leave out. It’s actually a much better story to hear than to read but here you go. It’s a story I tell almost every time I’m asked to speak and one I ALWAYS tell when speaking to women’s groups.

When my ex and I first separated, he would take the kids for “visitation” and go to his grandmother’s and call me up. Although he was supposed to be visiting with the children, he would call me almost the minute he got them back to his grandmother’s house.

He would tell me everything that was wrong with me and how horrible a wife and mother I was…how he abused me and cheated on me because it was my fault, I was so wretched. If I tried to argue or hangup he would tell me that if I did, I would never see the kids again.

I would listen to his tirades and endless castigations against me (complete with every name in the book, including ones I haven’t heard since leaving him). I would cry and beg him to stop. Continue reading

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Know What Hurts and Stop the Pain

change_edited-1One of my favorite Melody Beattie lines is that when you are recovering, it’s important to know what hurts and learn to stop the pain.

When my kids were going into high school they had to have immunizations. They are all needle phobic but my middle son Michael, the toughest one in the bunch, was ridiculous about it. He was a big tough guy that no one ever messed with but he turned into a bubbling little boy when a needle shows up near him.

The nurse came in with a gigantic needle and I watched his eyes grow wide like saucers. She marched over to him and jabbed him in the arm with the needle. He yelped, “GET IT OUT! GET IT OUT!” She turned to me and told me to tell him to stop it. I had to stifle a laugh and refused. She was angry.

Too damn bad.
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GPYB Workbook

We have several new members who asked about the next workbook sale, so here it is. You have the choice of on-line (fillable .pdf), off-line (print out the work sheets) and both (some people want both). The special will run for a couple of days.

If you order a workbook, please email me at sj_elliott AT verizon DOT net and let me know because PayPal does not always send me the notification.

FYI, all workbook purchasers may ask me questions about the workbook exercises and I will post a “WORKBOOK FAQ” in the upcoming weeks. If you’ve ever purchased the workbook, feel free to write and I will answer you directly and will put your question in a faq (not with your name, of course!)

If you have questions about the workbook prior to purchase, you can ask in comments and I will answer here.


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Torch Song Trilogy

A perennial favorite on the blog and requested repost:



I saw this movie in the theater when it came out and I was pretty tortured and depressed at the time. I had just ended my marriage and was wrestling with my relationship with my adoptive family. I remember crying at the relationship between Arnold and his adopted son David…I wanted a mom like Arnold, bunny slippers and all.

But I didn’t UNDERSTAND the sentiment, “Love and respect me or get out.” It did not compute. I had not yet learned, as Arnold knew, that love is an action. And I had not yet insisted on it from absolutely everyone.

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GBOT FB GROUP

gbotI have created a GBOT FB group. I will be posting previews and highlights from the new book and it’s a group so you are free to share and ask questions. It’s a closed group. To join go to: GBOT FB GROUP

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Sometimes, It’s Just Not It

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Not every post or every reader is about bad relationships. This blog and the book are about relationships that run the gamut. Many times the relationships are okay or even good and one person just says, “You know what? I’m outta here.” Sometimes there is absolutely no reason for it. It’s a nice relationship, you’re a nice person, but it’s not compelling enough for me to stay. That happens. Can be mind-boggling to the person being left, but it happens.

I received an email from someone this morning that I will respond to privately and post on the blog. It’s a very similar situation to what I’m talking about. But for those of you who might be in a similar situation, here is a repost of “Sometimes It’s Just Not It.”
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