The holidays tend to push someone else’s idea of happiness upon us. We are told Christmas is the “most wonderful time of the year” and Easter is the time for new beginnings, but we can’t figure out, half the time, what that means.
What we are told and what we feel about it are often two different things. We feel stressed, hurried, broke and on edge. How is Christmas the “most wonderful time of the year?” What makes it so?
And if we are not happy during December, when everyone keeps telling us we should be, when will we be happy? On New Year’s when it’s the start of a brand new year? No? Too close to Christmas? How about at Easter when it’s the time of new beginnings? Okay, it’s Easter. Do you feel better yet?
HAPPY is not something we are just when the almighty “THEY” tell us to be. Happiness comes from “having a pretty good time” all of the time by knowing how to accept life on life’s terms.
The key to being happy is to accept life as it comes along and to finish our unfinished business.
That’s pretty much it.
In GPYB we tackle things that happened in the past while doing positive things in the present and making goals for the future. It’s a very systematic program designed to heal the losses, change our thinking and behavior of today, and plan for the future.
We don’t talk about being extraordinarily happy but when we focus on our STUFF in the past, change our thinking in the present and make plans for the future, having a “pretty good time” is the result.
When we are whole and we are healed of all the pain and loss that we have experienced, we can wake up each day and not TRY to be happy…we will take what comes along. We will stop trying to control people places and things…we will have good boundaries and a positive outlook, we will do the right thing and our emotions will be appropriate.
If a day is wonderful we will recognize that, appreciate it and bask in it.
If a day is terrible, we will deal with it without going off the deep end, go to bed knowing that tomorrow is another day.
When we string a bunch of days together, just taking them as they come, for 24 hours, and accepting what they are and what they bring and not trying to will them to be what we want, we will eventually realize we are happy.
Because when we accept each day as it comes along and appreciate it for what it is or is not, we wind up having a pretty good time.
Have a good time…no matter what the calender says or doesn’t say…YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!