Author Archives: Susan J. Elliott

What If You Were Gone Tomorrow?

Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever. -M.K. Gandhi To follow up on the “Build Your Life” post, it’s a difficult thing to do (what that post and the comments suggest) … Continue reading

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If It Walks Like a Fool, Talks Like a Fool….

Litigant on the People’s Court: I was the other woman for 19 years, he would drink and not come home…he cheated on me (apparently there was more than one other woman) and once he didn’t come home on his birthday … Continue reading

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Build Your Life

One of the themes that I hear – and has just come up again in comments – which makes breakups much harder to recover from is when someone has made their partner their life. They don’t have many friends, have … Continue reading

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Reconciliation: A Means or an End?

There were questions in comments about reconciliations. Most of the time we don’t talk about that. I find that there is a small percentage of couples who can successfully reconcile. Maybe there are therapists somewhere that have a high rate … Continue reading

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Early Relationship

GBOT excerpt: http://gettingbackoutthere.com/excerpt-the-early-relationship-2/

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Sometimes It’s Just Not It

Requested repost. Amazingly enough, during my research for Getting Back Out There I interviewed a woman who had the same experience I did. In fact the names are just about interchangeable, so this is not that uncommon. Not every post … Continue reading

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Wherever You Go, There You Are

No matter where you go, there you are. ~ Confucius It seems that each new year, people make changes that may or may not actually change things. Think long and hard before you do something drastic. Many people are in … Continue reading

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Check in Thread 1/5

We had some technical issues and were down for a while, but here is the new check in thread.

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A New Year…a New You

The annual GPYB New Year’s Post. We spend January 1 walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to … Continue reading

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Mail. We Get Mail on Reconnecting with A Long-Ago Ex

Almost 15 years ago I met a guy a few months after we both went through significant breakups. We had an on-again / off-again relationship due to the fact that neither of us were truly over our last relationship but … Continue reading

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