Repost:Passive Aggressive Personalities

ecause you can’t willfully and assertively refuse to do something in the military, its necessary to find other ways to get out of something: i.e. being aggressive in a very passive way. Passive aggressiveness is a way of resisting demands of others without actually confronting that person or the anger at the person with the demands.
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“All my friends are telling me it’s over, he’s not coming back, but I’m waiting for a sign from God that it’s really over.”

This sentiment reminds me of that old joke where relentless rains from a hurricane start to flood a town. It becomes evident that it is necessary to evacuate the residents. The police go door to door telling people to leave.

When written in Chinese the word crisis is composed of two characters. One represents danger, and the other represents opportunity. ~ John F. Kennedy

Most people intuitively flail at crisis and upset. We don’t like it. We don’t want it. It’s upsetting and crazymaking. We dive for cover and hope it will go away or we act out in very destructive ways that might not even seem destructive to us at the time. We bob and weave and cover our heads lest crisis strike a fatal blow. We don’t want to deal with it. We think it is bigger and badder and more powerful than us (but it’s not). We hate it but we can’t seem to make it go away.
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My earliest memory is realizing that the family I lived with wasn’t “my” family and that my biological mother had placed me there, visiting very seldom. When she did visit me, either there or at the offices of the Catholic Charities in Manhattan, she was cold, distant and not very interested in me.

Other adults thought I was cute and smart and well-behaved. So why didn’t she want me? As a five year old I had to wonder what intrinsic, fatal flaw did I have that rendered me repulsive to my own mother? [Read more...]

All the time I hear, “(He or She) owes me….[an apology, an explanation, another chance, closure...]”

And my response is: “No one owes you a damn thing.”

Please disabuse yourself of any notions that you are owed anything at the end of a relationship unless that anything is tangible money or property and then, if that is the case, please take your troubles to court.

Otherwise, here is a newsflash for you: no one owes you a damn thing. Stop insisting that your ex does and move on with your life.
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In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity – Albert Einstein

I have rarely grown or changed in my life without difficulty being the catalyst. If there is no difficulty and no pain, I very rarely wake up and think “What can I do to change my life?” instead I wake up and read the paper. While it is certainly enjoyable to have so little cares that I can get up and read the paper, it has not always been that way. In fact most of my life was full of strife and tumoil and emotional pain. [Read more...]