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Being a Doormat Doesn’t Make You “Nice” or “Loving”; It Makes You Stupid

Based on comments, this needs a rerun. I have said over and over again that healthy boundaries are the key to good relationships. Yet I keep hearing people say “I’m a good person who was good to him or her … Continue reading

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Posting and spam

To avoid spammers getting on the board, we have a fairly sophisticated spam filter in place. Sophisticated doesn’t mean it’s not stupid. Sometimes it does things that have no rhyme or reason, but here is how it’s supposed to work: … Continue reading

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Sometimes The Answer Is, Simply, “This Isn’t It For Me.”

If I had to vote for my least popular post, this would be it. But it’s one of the most important I’ve ever written. It contains observations and things that NO ONE wants to hear. Sorry. But it’s helpful to … Continue reading

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Four Basic Needs

I used to start a lot of sentences with “I need….” and most of them ended with “I need THAT person to stop doing that TO ME.” “I need THAT person to change THIS way…” “I need that horrible thing … Continue reading

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7/15 Check in Post

How is everyone doing? (If you’re new and posted in the last check in at the end, feel free to repost here…well, that goes for everyone but I wanted new people to know how it works..we want to make sure … Continue reading

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Color Me Calm

Example of a Mandala Psychology Today post Color Me Calm

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Loneliness As A Risk Factor For a Bad/Sick Relationship

“One of the first steps of recovery is to develop a full life for yourself. Nothing happens until that occurs. Have a plan what to do if you get lonely so you don’t do the disasterous ‘Drink and Dial!’ Or … Continue reading

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7/3 Check-in Thread

How is everyone doing?

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Independence Day NC Chips

We have not done NC chips in a LONG time but there are many people who are struggling BUT succeeding at NC so I want you to come and get your chip!!!! Also, it is Independence Day weekend in the … Continue reading

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Deciding to Move On…Or Not

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. ~ Helen Keller Who doesn’t “get over” it? There … Continue reading

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