Category Archives: recovery

D-bom Moments

For those new on the blog, this is another abbreviation we use around here, so this is how it began: “We see and understand more about our behaviors. We come aware. And aware. And aware. . . Often, we feel … Continue reading

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Real Respect and Real Love In Action

Real love is a permanently self-enlarging experience. – M. Scott Peck This has been requested over and over again. One thing I’ve written about is that most people don’t understand that saying “He’s in a better place.” (after a death), … Continue reading

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The Courage to Heal

One of the themes I find among my GPYB clients as well as the readers here who post and are not clients is that it is rare themselves credit for facing the truth about things, facing their own inner demons, … Continue reading

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Was Your Relationship Good For You????

My apologies for the blog being down. Thank you to the readers who alerted me. It appears up now! I repost this now and again and based on comments, it might be time to run it again. Please think about … Continue reading

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3/12 TFTD ~ More on Boundaries

Setting and sticking to reasonable, healthy limits in all our relationships is a prerequisite to love and relationships that work. – Melody Beattie. As we say in GPYP seminars and workshops, you cannot have good, healthy relationships without personal boundaries. … Continue reading

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3/3 TFTD ~ On Starting A Program of Change

One ship sails East, And another West, By the self-same winds that blow, Tis the set of the sails And not the gales, That tells the way we go. Like the winds of the sea Are the waves of time, … Continue reading

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2/26 TFTD ~ More on Grief and Loss

Grief is itself a medicine. ~ William Cowper Grief will happen either as an open healing wound or a closed festering wound, either honestly or dishonestly, either appropriately or inappropriately. But emotions will be expressed. ~ Elisabeth Kubler Ross When … Continue reading

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2/23 TFTD ~ On Thinking, Saying and Doing

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. – MK Gandi When we are thinking positively and shunning the negative messages from ourselves and others, when we are communicating in “I” language … Continue reading

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2/21 TFTD ~ On Feeling “Less Than”

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.-Eleanor Roosevelt Never give it. – Marion Wright Edelman One of the markers of a small mind is to blame other people for what is going wrong. They not only blame … Continue reading

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2/19 TFTD ~ On Wanting More

How can we tell someone to stop hurting us if we’re not sure it hurts? How can we identify it as inappropriate if that’s all we’ve ever lived with? To us, it’s normal. How can we know what we want … Continue reading

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