One of the things I hear a lot of lately (I hear a lot of it normally but it seems more lately) is “We did everything together.” or “We always had brunch on Sunday mornings.” or “We drove to work together.” etc etc etc.
Our relationships (all of them) have natural ebbs and flows. But all of them should be nurtured and protected and you can’t do that if you and your boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband/lover etc etc are always doing things together or always doing the same things together.
There are some things that don’t change. People have their “stuff.” Michael had NASCAR and though he taped every race, I would hear “My race is on.” many times when I was planning some weekend things. We each had certain shows we watched at certain times and yes, when we first got married we spent just about every Saturday shopping for the house and/or kids. We would be tooling around, driving, listening to music, talking, eating, laughing. For the first 2 years we had our weekend thing. But then we started to branch out into other things and do things a bit more separately.
I don’t think we were enmeshed in the beginning (though Michael would have liked nothing more).