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Leaving The Abusive Relationship

Part 1 of 4: I Didn’t Know That I Didn’t Know By Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2018 All rights reserved A rerun for the FB group. Abuse can be physical, mental, emotional, verbal and sexual. It can be but … Continue reading

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Don’t Give Up The Day Before The Miracle Happens

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. “….in the spring becomes the rose…” Please don’t give up the day before the miracle happens. I ended my marriage at least 4 years after I wanted to. The reasons were varied and complicated, … Continue reading

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Dear Bananahead (or Bananaheadette)

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. It’s been almost five years since I first wrote this and I get a request for it every few months, so here it is again: This is a convenient cut and paste for everyone … Continue reading

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When Loneliness Leads You Back to a Bad Relationship

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Also called “Good Sex in Bad Relationships” “One of the first steps of recovery is to develop a full life for yourself. Nothing happens until that occurs. Have a plan what to do if … Continue reading

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Leaving The Abusive Relationship

Part 1 of 4: I Didn’t Know That I Didn’t Know By Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2018 All rights reserved Abuse can be physical, mental, emotional, verbal and sexual. It can be but doesn’t have to be all 5. … Continue reading

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You Are So Not Who I Thought You Were

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Rerun based on a post from the FB group. After my first few post-divorce breakups, I started to tell people that “anyone is capable of anything at any time.” It’s not that anyone will … Continue reading

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Trust the Process

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Working through unresolved grief can only work to make you stronger. As Stephen Levine said, people who work through their grief are the lightest and happiest of beings. It shows in their life, in … Continue reading

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Leaving The Abusive Relationship

Part 1 of 4: I Didn’t Know That I Didn’t Know By Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2018 All rights reserved Abuse can be physical, mental, emotional, verbal and sexual. It can be but doesn’t have to be all 5. … Continue reading

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Torch Song Trilogy

A perennial favorite on the blog and requested repost: I saw this movie in the theater when it came out and I was pretty tortured and depressed at the time. I had just ended my marriage and was wrestling with … Continue reading

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A New Year…a New You

The annual GPYB New Year’s Post We spend January 1 walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to … Continue reading

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Mail. We Get Mail on Wanting Them To KNow

Requested Repost. Reader Email. I’m always amazed at what posts my readers remember. They ask for articles I barely remember writing, but here it is. This post is a mashup of several previous posts. I talk about my ex in … Continue reading

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Requested Repost: Betrayal

Betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~ Steven Dietz Betrayal may be described as simply the breaking of trust. It’s when we trust someone and they break that trust (and usually our hearts at the same time). Please follow … Continue reading

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Holidays and me-all year round

I wrote about the first Christmas and New Year’s alone 10 months after my separation but not about much before that. After a VERY bumpy beginning, things had been going well that fall and I wasn’t prepared to be as … Continue reading

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Splitting Post

Someone just mentioned splitting, I go into this in greater detail in the workbook and have some exercises to work on it, and I touch on it some in both books, but splitting makes it much harder to get over … Continue reading

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Public Aloneness

A reader wrote to me about going to new things alone when she had been part of a couple for so long. I wrote this a while ago and hope it helps: So many parts of uncoupling are scary and … Continue reading

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