Category Archives: no contact

No Contact: Searching and the Rules of Disengagement

No contact is hard, but so important to healing by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Pining is the subjective and emotional component of urge to search for the lost object. ~ Colin Murray Parkes. Colin Murray Parkes was a grief … Continue reading

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No Contact: Searching and the Rules of Disengagement

No contact is hard, but so important to healing by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Pining is the subjective and emotional component of urge to search for the lost object. ~ Colin Murray Parkes. Colin Murray Parkes was a grief … Continue reading

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Switching gears….or not

The Space You Need Is The Space To Learn What You Need by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2017 – All Rights Reserved. When I was convinced that my cheating husband had used a snowstorm to stay 45 miles … Continue reading

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Mail. We Get Mail on “No Contact” Issues

In email: I didn’t sit on my hands long enough…I tried to “watch” the need and let it pass and it felt overwhelming and I failed only to text him and ask “Why aren’t you contacting me occasionly” only to … Continue reading

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Obsession

Lately I’ve been getting a lot of questions about obsession versus rumination. “One thing leads to another”? Not always. Sometimes one thing leads to the same thing. Ask an addict.” ~ George Carlin As it says in the GPYB book … Continue reading

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