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When The Person You Love Doesn’t Love You

It Doesn’t Matter, It Doesn’t Matter, It Doesn’t Matter Because It’s Time to Reject the Rejecter by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2006-2018 Author, “Getting Past Your Breakup: How To Turn A Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That … Continue reading

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Standards and Compatibility

You get what you put up with. by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Many of my Getting Past Your Breakup (“GPYB”) readers think that my second book, Getting Back Out There (“GBOT”) is for when you are getting ready to … Continue reading

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Bumps in the Dating Road When Getting Back Out There

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Part 1: Readiness and rejection Getting Back Out There: Secrets to Successful Dating and Finding Real Love After The Big Breakup discusses the 5 R’s – Readiness, Rejection, Recycling, Rebounding and Retreating. They are commonly experienced bumps along the dating … Continue reading

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The Personality Disordered Co-Parent and “The System” Part 3

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2007-2018 Go HERE for Part 2 Go HERE for Part 1 How legal and mental health professionals can help when a co-parent is out of control It is very important for the non-PD … Continue reading

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The Personality Disordered Co-Parent and “The System” Part 2

by Susan J. Elliott, JD, M.Ed. Copyright 2006-2018 Ways professionals can assist those who must co-parent with a sick person When you are entrenched in a divorce or trying to co-parent with a personality disordered (PD) ex, your life may … Continue reading

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Recycling in Grief or What? Not Here Again!

Requested repost “Grief is a spiral. But am I going up or coming down?” ~ C.S. Lewis I talk about recycling in GBOT because dating often triggers recycling, but so does an anniversary date, the ex’s birthday, moving into your … Continue reading

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The Pathological NARCISSIST

A person void of empathy, love or enjoyment is not someone to love by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2018 REQUESTED REPOST.   Kernberg and Kohut are known as the “fathers” of narcissism.  As I am hard at work on … Continue reading

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There’s Hope after Heartbreak: 5 Things to Help You Heal

Don’t give up the day before the miracle happens Every few months I read an article about someone who committed suicide after a breakup or a person who went on a shooting rampage after a breakup. I urge people to spread the … Continue reading

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Leaving The Abusive Relationship

Part 1 of 4: I Didn’t Know That I Didn’t Know By Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2018 All rights reserved Abuse can be physical, mental, emotional, verbal and sexual. It can be but doesn’t have to be all 5. … Continue reading

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My Relationship Ended. Now What?

How to face your loss, feel your feelings, and come out stronger than ever by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Time does not heal all wounds. If it did, no one would have unresolved loss or be bitter years after a breakup.  … Continue reading

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Moving On, Letting Go & Finding “The One”

When We Don’t Share Values and Morals, It’s the Wrong Relationship by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Several years ago I worked with a guy who was sweet, soft-spoken exceedingly polite and just all-around wonderful. He became engaged and gave his … Continue reading

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Personality Disordered Co-Parents and “The System” Part 1

Personality Disordered Co-Parents and “The System”, Part 1 Ways professionals can assist those who must co-parent with a sick person by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2006-2018 This is Part One of a Three Part Series As an attorney, … Continue reading

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Like Water: Why We Attract Who We Attract

The “water seeks its own level” posts were requested. Here are two of them: by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Look to your mate choices to better understand yourself Carl Jung said that everything that irritates us about others can … Continue reading

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5 Things You Must Do To Change the Quality of Relationships

It is possible to bridge the gap between horrible relationships and happiness by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2017 There is societal pressure to be partnered. When you are not, you often feel as if the entire world is … Continue reading

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Breaking Up and Making “The Turn”

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Any change, any loss, does not make us victims. Others can shake you, surprise you, disappoint you, but they can’t prevent you from acting, from taking the situation you’re presented with and moving on. … Continue reading

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