What is a divorce coach and what can he or she bring to your life?
The American Bar Association on Divorce Coaching:
Divorce coaching is a flexible, goal-oriented process designed to support, motivate, and guide people going through divorce to help them make the best possible decisions for their future, based on their particular interests, needs, and concerns. Divorce coaches have different professional backgrounds and are selected based on the specific needs of the clients. For example, some divorce coaches are financial planners, mental health professionals, lawyers, or mediators who have experience dealing with divorcing clients.
Article by HuffPo
Why You Need a Divorce Coach
Why You Need a Divorce Coach is a good article because it WARNS that one of the downside to hiring a divorce coach is that ANYONE can claim to be one! Know the background and experience of your divorce coach!
Your GPYB Divorce Coach
Susan J. Elliott is a an attorney, a certified grief counselor, recognized national and international relationship expert, who specializes in counseling partners and former partners of those with Cluster B Personality Disorders (most notably NARCISSISTS and SOCIOPATHS).
She is the author of Getting Past Your Breakup: How To Turn A Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You (an Amazon bestseller for almost 10 years, was About.com’s self-help book of the year in 2009, and consistently places on Best Breakup Books of All Time Lists), and Getting Back Out There: Secrets to Successful Dating and Finding Real Love After the Big Breakup and the Getting Past Your Past Workbook: The Definitive Guide to Healing, Health and Happiness, creator of the Getting Past Your Breakup program with 25 years of counseling those going through a breakup, with 15 years of litigation, mediation and arbitration experience. For her educational credentials, see below.
CONTACT Susan J. Elliott for Divorce Coaching inquiry
The difference between your retained divorce attorney and a divorce coach is that a coach with experience in psychology and law (not every divorce coach has this background) will help you deal with the feelings and separating that from the legal process as well as helping you understand the legal process. As an attorney, Ms. Elliott knows how to present questions and issues to your attorney or how to file papers and stay on the right side of the judge if you are self-represented.
With her extensive law and psychology background, she has worked with attorneys, judges, mediators, arbitrators, social services, child protective services, guardians ad litem, social workers, therapists, parenting coordinators, child support enforcement agencies throughout the US and Canada.
Ms. Elliott’s speciality is helping clients navigate the distressing and confusing legal system while holding their hands through the emotions of grief after a breakup and helping clients cope with children and former partners who are uncooperative and difficult.
As a therapist she has over 25 years of shepherding people through the emotional, mental and practical nightmare that divorce can be. As a grief counselor, she helps her clients through the grief process as they dissolve their marriage or civil union (some clients are not legally married but had a civil union ceremony and now have children with that partner). She also works with those who were never married but are now hashing out difficult child visitation and support arrangements with their ex.
As a former psychiatric clinician, she is very familiar with mental health issues and the complexity of separating from the personality disordered. She also understands – as an attorney and a therapist – how the legal and mental health worlds tend to be ignorant about the other. She has navigated those waters many times – on both ends – to bring clarity to the process for her clients. It can be extremely frustrating to deal with legal professionals who don’t understand mental health and social services or mental health professionals who don’t understand the legal system. Ms. Elliott knows both systems very, very well.
If the divorce/legal process is scary to you – you NEED a divorce coach!
Ms. Elliott has done divorce coaching throughout the 50 United States and Canada. However, because she gives VERY personal attention to her clients, she keeps her client list small (both counseling and legal clients).
Depending on what your situation is, rates vary. Professionally trained divorce coaches charge fees in line with other professionals.
GPYB Divorce Coaching structures fees based on many factors such as where you are located, what your case entails and how many meetings/appearances you may require.
You may prefer a package which lowers the hourly rates. Clients who use divorce coaches typically find the service to be very cost-effective. Not only can a divorce coach who is also a licensed attorney save money by answering legal questions at a lower hourly rate than your attorney, but a divorce coach who also is a therapist can address the difficult emotional issues that most lawyers are not trained to deal with, nor do they want to.
Divorce coaching, by a trained attorney and trained therapist, is a very small investment that brings very big results – especially in the PEACE OF MIND department.
To inquire if she is available to be your divorce coach, please email her here
Due to copyright infringement, many of my law and psychology articles have been taken down but here are some that are still up as well as podcasts on the subject. If you need more articles or podcast links, please use the contact link above.
This is part 1 of a 3-part series. The article contains links to the other 2 parts:
Personality Disorders and the Legal System
MLT Podcast on Communication
Ready to Talk About Hiring A Divorce Coach?
Email Attorney Elliott HERE
Even if you don’t hire GPYB as your divorce coach, you can gain valuable insight regarding the process, both legally and emotionally.
Susan J. Elliott received her undergraduate degree from Mount Holyoke College where she graduated with a degree in English, High Honors, magna cum laude and Phi Beta Kappa. She received her Master’s in Counseling Psychology from Cambridge College (Jan 1995) and her Juris Doctorate from the University of California, Berkeley (May 2003)(a top 10 law school). While in law school, she trained at the Contra Costa County Superior Court assisting self-represented litigants in filing family law documents, applying for support, protective orders, visitation agreements and marital dissolution. Since then she has practiced as an attorney in Texas, the District of Attorney and New York. She is currently licensed to practice law in New York. She is inactive in Texas (where she practiced for 2 years before returning to NY) and the District of Columbia. She is familiar with state and federal laws and statutes pertaining to family law topics and has done divorce coaching throughout the 50 states and Canada. She has written extensively on the intersection of law and psychology.
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