Author Archives: Susan J. Elliott

2/6 TFTD ~ V-day

If a couple has a healthy and strong relationship, Valentine’s Day should not be a stressor no matter what. If a person is “romance-challenged” or doesn’t know what to buy, this is something the couple should be able to talk … Continue reading

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Valentine’s Day after a Breakup

It’s a made up holiday, which doesn’t mean a whole lot. Valentine’s Day is the epitome of our romantic love fantasy.  It represents all that we wish love could be and would be 365 days a year. Valentine’s Day feeds into our notion … Continue reading

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D-Bom Moments

The “older” group of members (from the blog) tend to use D-Bom so I thought I’d share where it comes from for the newer members: “We see and understand more about our behaviors. We come aware. And aware. And aware. … Continue reading

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Becoming Who We Are Meant To Be

I wrote this post in the second week of the blog. I had no idea the blog would lead to a book and be relevant 11 years later. AND that someone in a Facebook group would ask a question about … Continue reading

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There’s Hope after Heartbreak: 5 Things to Help You Heal

Don’t give up the day before the miracle happens Every few months I read an article about someone who committed suicide after a breakup or a person who went on a shooting rampage after a breakup. I urge people to spread the … Continue reading

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Leaving The Abusive Relationship

Part 1 of 4: I Didn’t Know That I Didn’t Know By Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2018 All rights reserved Abuse can be physical, mental, emotional, verbal and sexual. It can be but doesn’t have to be all 5. … Continue reading

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My Relationship Ended. Now What?

How to face your loss, feel your feelings, and come out stronger than ever by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Time does not heal all wounds. If it did, no one would have unresolved loss or be bitter years after a breakup.  … Continue reading

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Moving On, Letting Go & Finding “The One”

When We Don’t Share Values and Morals, It’s the Wrong Relationship by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Several years ago I worked with a guy who was sweet, soft-spoken exceedingly polite and just all-around wonderful. He became engaged and gave his … Continue reading

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Putting Change, Real Change, Into Your Life

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Your ultimate goal in life is to become your best self. Your immediate goal is to get on the path that will put you there. – David Viscott   A friend of mine said, yesterday, … Continue reading

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Courage, Hope and Deciding to Change

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Courage, it would seem, is nothing less than the power to overcome danger, misfortune, fear, injustice, while continuing to affirm inwardly that life with all its sorrows is good; that everything is meaningful even … Continue reading

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Grief vs. Self-Pity

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2007-2018 There is a difference between self-pity and grief.  It’s just not always easy to figure it out when you’re in the throes of emotion. Last year someone asked me to describe the … Continue reading

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The Personality Disordered Co-Parent and “The System” Part 3

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2007-2018 Go HERE for Part 2 Go HERE for Part 1 How professionals can help when a co-parent is out of control It is very important for the non-PD to not argue with … Continue reading

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The Personality Disordered Co-Parent and “The System” Part 2

by Susan J. Elliott, JD, M.Ed. Copyright 2006-2018 Ways professionals can assist those who must co-parent with a sick person It is very easy for the non-PD to be drawn into emotionally-charged emails with the PD. PD’s are master manipulators and … Continue reading

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The Blame Game: Help Yourself Out Of It

“Dad would start blaming, as if it were important to establish once and for all who was responsible for every peccadillo.” ~ Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse (ACOA/codependency expert) Needing someone to blame whenever something goes wrong is a hallmark of a dysfunctional … Continue reading

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Personality Disordered Co-Parents and “The System” Part 1

Personality Disordered Co-Parents and “The System”, Part 1 Ways professionals can assist those who must co-parent with a sick person by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2006-2018 This is Part One of a Three Part Series As an attorney, … Continue reading

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