Category Archives: loss

There’s Hope after Heartbreak: 5 Things to Help You Heal

Don’t give up the day before the miracle happens Every few months I read an article about someone who committed suicide after a breakup or a person who went on a shooting rampage after a breakup. I urge people to spread the … Continue reading

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My Relationship Ended. Now What?

How to face your loss, feel your feelings, and come out stronger than ever by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Time does not heal all wounds. If it did, no one would have unresolved loss or be bitter years after a breakup.  … Continue reading

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Breakups and Our Unresolved Losses

It’s important to recognize and honor all our losses and heal through grief. by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright @2008-2017 When I was younger, I would break up with someone and be okay for the first day. Then suddenly, … Continue reading

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Building Your Own Life

Don’t be afraid your life will end; be afraid it will never begin. ~ Grace Hansen This post was written a year before the book was published and when Michael was well (I mention him at the bottom of the … Continue reading

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Holidays and me-all year round

I wrote about the first Christmas and New Year’s alone 10 months after my separation but not about much before that. After a VERY bumpy beginning, things had been going well that fall and I wasn’t prepared to be as … Continue reading

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On Rising Up From the Ashes

This was one of the first posts I wrote on the blog. I was reading the through the first few blog posts and thought this would be a good one to run.  This is one that is partially in the … Continue reading

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Balance

Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony. ~ Thomas Merton Balance is always the name of the game. It’s not enough to “feel your feelings,” you have to also do some work for … Continue reading

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Blame, forgiveness, compromise and working it out

I wrote this last year on blame and some of the comments this week brings it back around… “Dad would start blaming, as if it were important to establish once and for all who was responsible for every peccadillo.” ~ … Continue reading

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Grief Ends. Bank on it. Believe in It.

Most grief ends. Know it. Bank on it. Believe in it. If you do your work, it ends. If you work through it, it ends. If you feel your feelings and allow grief to happen, it ends. When it is … Continue reading

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Grief versus Self-Pity

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2007-2018 There is a difference between self-pity and grief.  It’s just not always easy to figure it out when you’re in the throes of emotion. Last year someone asked me to describe the … Continue reading

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9/13 TFTD ~ More on Living Well

When the night has been too lonely and the road has been too long And you think that love is only for the lucky and the strong Just remember in the winter far beneath the bitter snows, Lies the seed, … Continue reading

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