Category Archives: thought for the day

2/6 TFTD ~ V-day

If a couple has a healthy and strong relationship, Valentine’s Day should not be a stressor no matter what. If a person is “romance-challenged” or doesn’t know what to buy, this is something the couple should be able to talk … Continue reading

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Building Your Own Life

Don’t be afraid your life will end; be afraid it will never begin. ~ Grace Hansen This post was written a year before the book was published and when Michael was well (I mention him at the bottom of the … Continue reading

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Holidays and me-all year round

I wrote about the first Christmas and New Year’s alone 10 months after my separation but not about much before that. After a VERY bumpy beginning, things had been going well that fall and I wasn’t prepared to be as … Continue reading

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On Rising Up From the Ashes

This was one of the first posts I wrote on the blog. I was reading the through the first few blog posts and thought this would be a good one to run. ¬†This is one that is partially in the … Continue reading

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Narcissists, Abusers, Psychopaths and other Lunatics

I have spent a lot of time in the past few weeks speaking to people (not just readers and clients, but reporters and other media people) about all these topics. I’m putting some of the links here for new readers. … Continue reading

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Blame, forgiveness, compromise and working it out

I wrote this last year on blame and some of the comments this week brings it back around… “Dad would start blaming, as if it were important to establish once and for all who was responsible for every peccadillo.” ~ … Continue reading

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The Definitive Guide to Contact / No Contact

There seems to be a little confusion as to what days it’s okay to contact the ex and what days it is not. So I devised a simple “no contact” calendar for you. Figure out what day it is when … Continue reading

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Grief versus Self-Pity

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2007-2018 There is a difference between self-pity and grief.¬† It’s just not always easy to figure it out when you’re in the throes of emotion. Last year someone asked me to describe the … Continue reading

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9/26 TFTD ~ On Self Soothing

Someone asked me, in a comment, to explain what I meant by “self-soothing”. It’s really a combination of affirmations, positive self-talk and telling yourself that what you’re PERCEIVING is not necessarily how it is. My biggest obstacle was fear of … Continue reading

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9/13 TFTD ~ More on Living Well

When the night has been too lonely and the road has been too long And you think that love is only for the lucky and the strong Just remember in the winter far beneath the bitter snows, Lies the seed, … Continue reading

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3/4 TFTD ~ More On Dancing Out of Control

When she is starved, a woman will take any substitutes offered, including those that, like placebos, do absolutely nothing for her, as well as destructive and life-threatening ones that hideously waste her time and her talents or expose her life … Continue reading

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2/13 TFTD ~ On Keeping a Positive Attitude

Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives. – William James When our life has been unhappy or chaotic, it is very easy to become negative and jaded. It is … Continue reading

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12/17 TFTD – On Softening

“The wounds of the past have sacrificed the heart. The mind has cramped closed. The body has entrophied in hard-bellied distrust. But the feeling of loss, and being lost, eventually gets our attention and we see that no one can … Continue reading

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