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NEW in Version 3 is How To Use The Books and the Workbook to do the Work which gives you an approximation as to where you should be during which week (since we are all individuals, it’s an approximation). See it at the bottom of this page.
The GPYP workbook consists of worksheets I’ve given in my courses and seminars throughout the years. It also answers a lot of questions people have asked over the years about doing affirmations, journaling and the inventories. It was an enormous undertaking and I recently edited it to remove some material based on reader feedback and add some new chapters.
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This is the version for those who want to fill in the exercises on screen in the workbook. You can print also print it out but you are able to do all the exercises on the screen on your laptop or iPad or other devices (whichever ones support fillable .pdf). You MUST have the latest version of Adobe Acrobat, otherwise it will not work.
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I made this video for Version 1. There is much more there now (V1 was published before GBOT came out so it doesn’t contain any GBOT material), but you will get the idea watching the video
v3 TABLE OF CONTENTS
Getting Past Your Past: The Definitive Workbook to Emotional Health, Healing and Happiness:
CHAPTER ONE: OBSERVATION, PREPARATION, AND CULTIVATION
CHAPTER TWO: JOURNALING
CHAPTER THREE: AFFIRMATIONS
CHAPTER FOUR: ACCEPTANCE STATEMENTS, MANTRAS, AND GRATITUDE LISTS
CHAPTER FIVE: NO CONTACT (NC)
CHAPTER SIX: IMPULSIVITY, SELF-RESTRAINT, SOLITUDE AND MINDFULNESS
CHAPTER SEVEN: TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF
CHAPTER EIGHT: GRIEF AS THE HEALING FEELING
CHAPTER NINE: SPLITTING AND THE RELATIONSHIP INVENTORY
CHAPTER TEN: LIFE AND PARENT INVENTORIES
CHAPTER ELEVEN: OVERDEVELOPED DEFENSE MECHANISMS
CHAPTER TWELVE: BOUNDARIES
CHAPTER THIRTEEN: STANDARDS AND COMPATIBILITY INVENTORY
CHAPTER FOURTEEN: HEALTHY COMMUNICATION
CHAPTER FIFTEEN: GOALS
CHAPTER SIXTEEN: ACT AS IF
CHAPTER SEVENTEEN: THE SEXUAL INVENTORY
CHAPTER EIGHTEEN: LETTING GO 287
CHAPTER NINETEEN: GETTING BACK OUT THERE 303
If you order in on-line form know that fillable .pdf forms can be clunky and sometimes (depending on your computer) difficult to deal with. I’ve only had one complaint about dissatisfaction with the format, but I did not develop fillable .pdf nor did I develop Adobe Acrobat. It is what it is.
The workbook is over 250 pages but not every page needs to be filled in or printed. At least half the work book is information. Each chapter contains explanation of the exercises and the theories behind them. If you look at the table of contents below, it contains only the starting page of the chapter and the exercises in between. So if a chapter starts on page 20 and the first exercise starts on page 23, that means there are 3 pages of “readable” material that you can read on your tablet or computer (or even certain phones). You can fill in the worksheets on your computer if you don’t mind fillable .pdf or print out the worksheets for that chapter (usually will be between 10-20 pages) and fill them in by hand.
So she stated she was “extremely disappointed” in the product because of the format. (not the content, but the format). Extremely disappointed in .pdf does not warrant a refund as far as I’m concerned…so I hate to do this but you buy it, you own it. No refunds on this workbook. There’s no way for you to “return” it, so no refunds even for the “extremely disappointed.” If I eat at a restaurant and find the meal “disappointing,” I don’t get it for free.
- Start reading GPYB. You do not have to start at page 1 and go forward. If contact is an issue, go to the NC chapter in the book and this workbook. Watch the NC videos on the GPYP YouTube channel.
- Read these most important chapters in the book and workbook and do the exercises every day: Observation, Journaling, Affirmations (including Gratitude Lists) and Self-Care. These items MUST be part of your daily routine before you even think about doing the Inventories.
- If you have children, read Chapter 5 in GPYB and Chapter 7 in GBOT.
- Review the YouTube videos and MLT podcasts. These materials will help you become comfortable with working through the books and workbook.
- Review the Boundaries material in both books and this work book.
- Grief, and your handling of it, will dictate your breakup healing. If you ignore all the losses that came before this breakup and just zoom ahead, you’re going to repeat the pattern.
- Re-read Chapter One in GPYB: The Roadmap to Healing about balancing grief and self-care. Design a self-care regiment.
- Read the Grief Chapter in GPYB a few times. Go to the Grief chapter in this workbook and start working through the exercises.
- Visit the PODCAST pages and the YOUTUBE videos on grief and loss. The resources page on the GPYB website has the links.
- Read the Grief Chapter in GPYB and this workbook.
- Review GPYB Advanced Materials available before going on to Phase Three Are you ready for a stronger Affirmation practice? Boundaries? Learning about Personality Disorders?
- When you have a solid foundation of NC, affirmations, journaling and self-care and are not falling apart in grief, you can start the Relationship Inventory. This is usually after 8-12 weeks, but it can take much longer. It’s okay if you’re not ready at 8 weeks or even at 12 weeks.
- At this point, it’s time to open GBOT. It does not mean you’re ready to date or anywhere NEAR ready to date. GBOT is NOT a book for when you’re READY to date. It’s a book to GET you ready for a healthy relationship LONG before you are ready to date and that starts when you’re still in the middle of GPYB. The two books and the workbook work together. They are guidebooks and should be used as such. They should be opened every day while you’re going through this process. This is a 25 year old program that is proven successful by thousands of people.
- As you work through your Relationship Inventory in GPYB, open GBOT to Chapter 4, The Standards and Compatibility Inventory. After some of the thoughts and issues come up in Relationship Inventory START THIS. Out of all the things you’re going to work on between the 2 books and the workbook, this is one of the MOST important and one you will hold near and dear long after you’ve forgotten your ex’s name.
- As you work through your Relationship Inventory, pull out the worksheets in this workbook for the Standards and Compatibility Inventory and the You/Me list.
- Read Chapters 8, 9, 10 and Epilogue in GBOT. These chapters are about what kind of relationship and what kind of partner you want. If you don’t figure this out LONG before you are ready to date, you will fail again. Start to formulate what kind of partner you want NOW. Journal about what your “3 a.m. person” looks like.
- Make a commitment via Affirmations to moving away from any future potential mate the minute they exhibit “Not Acceptable” behavior or are obviously missing a “Must Have.” The advanced affirmation material will include these commitment statements.
- While reading these chapters, journal about Accept It, Change It or Leave, Communication Issues and Habits and Lifestyles. Think about what you do and do not want in a partner. Continue the commitment statements.
- Review Chapters 8 and 9 in GBOT, “The Early Relationship” and the “Couples Inventory” and journal about what is healthy and what is not. Think about your previous relationships and what you do and do not want.
- Continue to review the GBOT chapters every week, at least once a week. Keep asking yourself what kind of partner you want and need. Keep reviewing healthy and unhealthy communication patterns.
- Finish your Relationship Inventory and Your Letter and Letting Go Ritual.
- Open the Life Inventory/Mother Inventory/Father Inventory in GPYB….with the idea of what you want – it’s time to think about what you’ve had as far as relationships go and the influence of early caregivers (or absence caregivers).
- When you’ve done the Life and Parent Inventories, it’s time to return to GBOT and do the Sexual Inventory if you need to.
- If you are ready to work on Overdeveloped Defense Mechanisms, go to the Overdeveloped Defense Mechanism chapter in this workbook. GPYB Productions is developing a Family of Origin course. Check the Resources page for availability.
- Now is the time to read the Chapter in GPYB and the first 3 Chapter of GBOT. Good luck!
Before using any self-help materials, it is imperative to know the difference between grief and depression. It is important to understand that if you are suffering from clinical depression and not being treated, you SHOULD NOT do this work. Many clients are afraid to be treated for depression because they will “numb out.” Actually, the opposite is true. If you are clinically depressed and get treatment, the medication puts a “floor” under you so that you can do the work you need to do. If you are clinically depressed and untreated, without that floor, you run the risk of falling into a “black hole” of despair. It is impossible to heal from that place.
And if you are treated, remember that most anti-depressants take 4-6 weeks to take effect, so please give the medication time to work before you start any kind of self-help work. If you are eager to start, you can start the “observation” part of the program by journaling. You can also start working with affirmations, but please do not do more than that for now.
If you are or think you are depressed, please have a depression screening and consultation with a qualified physician immediately. If you have any other disorders which require medication, please see a qualified physician before undertaking this or any other self-help work.