Here is a list of useful links

to all GPYB/GBOT/GPYP Resources

as well as abbreviations and sayings

 

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BOOKS

Books 1 and 2

Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That Ever Happened to You

– this is the book that started it all – published by Hachette Book Group – one of the “big 5” publishers – under the Da Capo Perseus imprint – and we are proud to be listed on numerous, prestigious Best Breakup Books of All Time lists. For a partial list, go HERE  

Getting Back Out There: Secrets to Successful Dating and Finding Real Love After the Big Breakup

– this is NOT a dating book and should be read IN CONJUNCTION with GPYB (see below for how to use the books together to work the program).  GBOT is also published by Hachette Book Group 

TO ORDER THESE TWO BOOKS FROM ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD CLICK THIS BUTTON

 

Please remember to review the books on Amazon (or B&N) and review places like Good Reads ESPECIALLY Getting Back Out There! (it’s NOT a dating book!  Get it EARLY in your breakup to understand what healthy relationships LOOK LIKE so you can slant your recovery in THAT direction!).


Getting Past Your Breakup on Good Reads HERE

Susan J. Elliott Quotes on Good Reads  HERE

Getting Back Out There on Good Reads HERE

Please feel free to add to the Reviews on Good Reads AND the Quote page!!!


Book 3 – stay tuned!

The Third Book: When The Person You Love Doesn’t Love You: How To Reject the Rejector, Heal Your Attachment Issues and Find Real Love

I am self-publishing this book via crowd-funding. Stay Tuned for details – FALL of 2019


If you support the podcast at a 9.99 level, you can have a choice of a Workbook, a Power Affirmations Booklet, a signed copy of GPYB or a signed copy of GBOT.  If you support the podcast at a 19.99 level, you can have a choice of TWO of those.  To go to the podcast support page and become a “Meanie,” go to https://www.patreon.com/meanladytalking

Workbook and Booklet Series

Getting Past Your Past:  The Definitive Workbook to Emotional Healing, Health and Happiness 

The  workbook V3  is available for INSTANT DOWNLOAD HERE! It is available in Fillable .pdf and Non-fillable .pdf.  You can print out the Fillable PDF but you can’t fill (on-line or on a device) the non-fillable version. 


The GPYB Power! Affirmations Booklet!

The GPYP Booklet Series is an exciting NEW venture to expand upon the most important GPYB subjects. 

The booklet V1 is available for INSTANT DOWNLOAD HERE  It is available in Fillable .pdf and Non-fillable .pdf.  You can print out the Fillable PDF but you can’t fill (on-line or on a device) the non-fillable version. 


The Workbook V3 and Power! Affirmations

Click the Button for the Quick Buy Page 

 

 

 

 

For Instructions on How To Use the Books

and the Workbook Together,

Click HERE:

NEWSLETTER and SPECIAL OFFERS!

Once upon a time (2005), GPYB started with a newsletter!  We have very very warm feelings for our newsletter subscribers – both new and old.  Although every website invites you to subscribe to their newsletter, it is to wrangle you into buying things and many of these sites will email you RELENTLESSLY.  That is SPAMMY and UNFAIR and NOT WHAT WE DO! There are ABSOLUTELY special offers ONLY available from the newsletter.  We will NOT spam you – we will NOT email you every day.

Signup for our Newsletter HERE 

PODCAST

The Mean Lady Talking podcast is the voice of GPYB. We hope to make it self-sustaining via Patreon supporters. Please rate and review wherever you listen.  Every episode has a Show Notes page. At the end of every Show Notes page are the platforms and apps where you can listen. There is a Quick Guide to Episodes showing only the Episode number and topics. On the long Episodes page is a listing and links to every Show Notes page. Please subscribe on your favorite platform or app and stay active with the show. Write us HERE to tell us what you think or have questions or comments. There is also a contact form on the website. 

    • The Mean Lady Talking Podcast website is HERE

    • Follow the Mean Lady Talking Podcast on Twitter HERE

    • Follow the Mean Lady Talking Podcast on Instagram HERE

    • Like and Review The Mean Lady Talking Podcast Facebook page HERE

    • The Mean Lady Talking podcast episodes are ALL available on GPYB’s YouTube channel. The MLT playlist is HERE
    • Please support the Mean Lady Talking Podcast on Patreon HERE

 

 

 

The VERY special Attachment, Rejection and Loss boot camp started JUNE 21, 2019 and THERE WILL NOT BE ANOTHER GPYB Boot Camp. 

In August 2019 we will be offering courses, workshops and seminars and some smaller, less-intense (than the boot camps were) groups. 

The first group will start September 13th.  The registration opens August 15th and – like the boot camps – will be limited but will be less intense and less expensive.  Please send email to susan@gettingpastyourbreakup.com for a registration form.

To stay informed of future exciting offerings, please please please SIGN UP FOR THE NEWSLETTER!!!

 

 

NEWSLETTER and SPECIAL OFFERS!

Once upon a time (2005), GPYB started with a newsletter!  We have very very warm feelings for our newsletter subscribers – both new and old.  Although every website invites you to subscribe to their newsletter, it is to wrangle you into buying things and many of these sites will email you RELENTLESSLY.  That is SPAMMY and UNFAIR and NOT WHAT WE DO! There are ABSOLUTELY special offers ONLY available from the newsletter.  We will NOT spam you – we will NOT email you every day.

Signup for our Newsletter HERE 

 

GPYB COACHING AND COUNSELING

 

You can make an appointment from ANYWHERE in the world! 

Counseling / Coaching is done via Zoom Video Call.  The client list is kept SMALL and closes – sometimes for months or years.  If you want to become a new client, please make a consultation appointment. 

To book a coaching or counseling session with GPYB go HERE

To book a divorce coaching consultation go HERE

Some insurance companies pay for GPYB Coaching and Counseling.  We do not submit to insurance but will provide an invoice with the relevant ICD-9 codes for you to submit.

FOR PROFESSIONALS

If you want to become a GPYB group facilitator with a referral from GPYB, please contact us.

If you are interested in a GPYB in-service to teach you or your staff how to be a GPYB coach or counselor, please contact us.  We will send referrals to your practice.

SOCIAL MEDIA

We LOVE interacting with our readers and listeners via social media. That is why we have 3 FB groups, several FB pages, 3 Twitter accounts, 2 Instagram accounts, and a Pinterest account

If you follow us on Twitter and Instagram, we will follow back.

If you have a commercial or business FB page, like us and we will like you back.

If you have a meme you would like to see on Pinterest, send it to us. If you have a Pinterest page, and follow us, we will follow back.

Below is our information for all these accounts, to ask for a follow or like or send a meme, write to admin@gettingpastyourbreakup.com and put “Social Media follow” in the subject line.

FACEBOOK GROUPS and PAGES

Groups

    • The GPYB Facebook group is HERE
    • The GPYB Funnies Group is HERE
    • The Navigating the Systems with the Personality Disordered Group is HERE

 

PAGES

Please LIKE all of the GPYB FB PAGES. Also, you will be apprised of special discounts on materials and offerings.

The Workbook is NOT available on Amazon so the reviews on FB are VITAL to its success. PLEASE like and review  that on Facebook. THANK YOU!

    • The GPYP Workbook FB Review page is HERE
    • The GPYB FB page is HERE
    • The Mean Lady Talking FB page is HERE
    • The GPYB Breakup and Relationship Memes and Pins FB page is HERE
    • Please like and follow Susan J. Elliott’s author page to be apprised of ALL new publications and early bird discounts!!! HERE
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PLAYLISTS

  • All the Getting Past Your Breakup videos HERE
  • The Top 10 Most Popular GPYB Videos HERE
  • GPYP Codependency videos HERE
  • Grief and Loss HERE
  • Personality Disorders HERE
  • Mean Lady Talking Podcast HERE
  • Dating HERE
  • Relationship Court HERE
  • The Watts Family Murders HERE

PLEASE REMEMBER TO “LIKE” THE VIDEOS!

TWITTER

 

  • Follow GPYB on Twitter HERE
  • Follow the Mean Lady Talking Podcast on Twitter HERE

Follow us on Twitter and we will follow back!

INSTAGRAM

  • Follow GPYB on Instagram HERE
  • Follow the Mean Lady Talking Podcast on Instagram HERE

Follow us on Instagram and we will follow back!


PINTEREST

Our Facebook group doesn’t allow memes.  We do however, have a Pinterest page.  If you want to send us a pin, we will pin it. If you have a Pinterest account, we  will follow you if you follow us.  Email us HERE and let us know you are a Pinterest follower and either send us the meme to pin or tell us your Pinterest name and we will follow you after you follow us.  See you on Pinterest!

See our Pinterest Board HERE

Other Authors GPYB Recommends

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STOP DV PROGRAM

The GPYB Stop DV Program is a VERY important of the GPYB program.

To find out how you can help – go HERE

We use a percentage of our royalties twice a year to send books to Domestic Violence shelters.  We also have a matching book program. 

Your donations of books to shelters help but your reviews do as well.  Please keep spreading the word about the GPYB program.  Thank you. 


PERSONAL GRIEF JOURNEY BLOG: ROPE BURNS

 

My journey through the love of my life’s illness and death. Click  Rope Burns

 

GPYB ON-LINE COURSES

 

 

No current courses available. To be apprised of the release of courses, sign up for the newsletter HERE.

 

Other Recommended Authors and Self-Care Items

 

  • Other authors/books/self-care items recommended by GPYB and FB GPYB Group members HERE

 

HISTORY OF GPYB/GPYB

Many people come here confused about “What is GPYP? ” “What is GPYB?” “Why two different names?”

The ORIGINAL program in the 1990s was Getting Past Your Past.  When I came back to teach it in NY, I found that not only had someone published a book of the same name but the author had the same name (and spelling) as me (how weird is that?)

I don’t know if she looked for a title and google’d her name or something and found a reference to me – no idea – but before I discovered her book, I had already started teaching Getting Past Your Past in NYC and had started a Getting Past Your Past blog (on wordpress dot com)  You can see old copies of the GPYP blog and website on the Wayback Machine.

The “other” Susan Elliott, author of the “other” GPYP is a Christian author and GPYB is secu lar (but one of the Getting Past Your Breakup reviews dinged the book because there was too much “Jesus as your husband” in it.  Anyone who has read GPYB knows there are exactly zero references to Jesus, let alone Him being your husband… another time I was dinged for “being a Christian writer who did not mention Jesus once in the book or exhort anyone to pray….” ) 

So I’ve been dinged by people confusing her book with mine and visa versa. So I try to differentiate ourselves from her as it has caused issues, but there are still people who look for me via Getting Past Your Past. 

To complicate things, a very competent author and creator of EMDR, Francine Shapiro, published a book in 2013 titled Getting Past Your Past. I am a HUGE proponent of EMDR and am a fan of Francine Shapiro, so I want to further distinguish GPYB from GPYP.

When I discovered the “other” Susan Elliott, I changed the program name to Getting Past Your Breakup BUT we use Getting Past Your Past when we are encompassing ALL the materials (Getting Past Your Breakup, Getting Back Out There AND material that was part of the original Getting Past Your Past program).

While I apologize for any confusion with the other Susan Elliott or Francine Shapiro, I was the first person to use the phrase, Getting Past Your Past and have tried to be gracious in distinguishing myself from them. 

ABBREVIATIONS AND SAYINGS

GPYB Getting Past Your Breakup Program and Book (see above)

GBOT Getting Back Out There Book (see above)

GPYP Getting Past Your Past Program and Book (see above) NC No Contact BH Bananahead

DBOM Dawn Breaks Over Marblehead

Funnies Group (see above) PD Group (see above)

MLT Mean Lady Talking (podcast)

MLTP Mean Lady Talking Podcast


“It Doesn’t Matter, It Doesn’t Matter, It Doesn’t Matter”  – GPYB mantra – original to the GPYB program – originated in the post no longer available on the blog – but IS available in THIS video

“Does It Hurt When You Do That?  Don’t DO THAT!!!”  Joke from GPYB book on breaking NC.

Reject the Rejecter (also spelled Rejector) -(see below) GPYB mantra – original to the GPYB program – originated in the post no longer available on the blog – but IS available in THIS video  and will be the NEXT book!

Wants To Be With Me originated in the post no longer available on the blog – but IS available in THIS video
The 3 a.m. person: GBOT concept – originally described in the GBOT book and the MLT podcasts

Grief As The Healing Feeling – title of Chapter in GPYB book – originated with John Bradshaw

“To find the right person, be the right person” ~ GPYB concept originated (we believe) with Earnie Larsen in his book Stage II Relationships

If nothing changes, nothing changes – tends to be a 12 step slogan – original source unknown  (sometimes attributed to Earnie Larsen)

The “3 time rule” for setting boundaries – believed to have originated with Melody Beattie

You cannot take care of someone’s feelings and set a boundary at the same time – Melody Beattie

Everyone feels their pain at 100 percent. ~ John James (Grief Recovery Institute)

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