Author, Attorney, Grief Counselor, Media Commentator, Motivational Speaker, Relationship Expert, Breakup Coach BA English Mount Holyoke College, magna cum laude, High Honors, Phi Beta Kappa M.Ed., Counseling Psychology, Cambridge College J.D. University of California, Berkeley Licensed to practice law in federal and state courts in NY. Licensed but Inactive in Texas and District of Columbia Creator of the Getting Past Your Past and Getting Past Your Breakup programs, seminars, workshops, bootcamps, videos, blogs and podcasts Author of Getting Past Your Breakup, Getting Back Out There and the GPYP Workbook

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast

In this episode we are talking about  Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda

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This is the podcast that tackles tough questions about relationships, life, love and loss. The Mean Lady Podcast is hosted by grief therapist, motivational speaker, best-selling author and attorney, Susan J. Elliott

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Because this material is very heavy,

I leave extra-long outtro music.  I hope it lifts you up!!!

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What’s In This Podcast Episode 5? 

In this podcast we talk about guilt and regret.  What are you holding onto from the past and why?  It’s a roadblock to your bright future and time to LET IT GO.

It comes out of the gate with “shoulda, woulda, coulda” and the benefits of resolving unresolved grief.

The podcast launches into the relationship-ending abuse and refers to Journey From Abuse which can be read HERE

The story about what happened to Max that night starts at 10:00

A recently found photo of me and Max the night I got him back:

The happiness house in Sterling starts at 11:00 where Max becomes “the bounding ‘oove'” loving every minute of every day…just a bounding ball of happy energy

First regret with Max at 14:46

Saying goodbye 16:35 

Full of regret 17:10

My (adoptive) mother’s illness  18:00

The nurse gives her medication 19:10

“shoulda woulda coulda”

My new therapist’s wife is a hypochondriac

My new therapist has guilt for days. 25:00

The “if onlys” at 26:00

Balance 26:35

I have included a special, extra long Happy Empowering Soul because of the heavy subject material. Enjoy!


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Without further ado, here is EPISODE 5…enjoy!  Leave comment on FB or on Libsyn or tweet at me @meanpodcast!!!!


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