Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 13 Show Notes

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode 13

In this episode we’re Talking About the Launch of a New Podcast Series About The Personality Disordered

The Twitter breakup with the twits at Psychology Today and Navigating the Legal System with the Personality Disordered

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Show Notes for Episode 13

What’s in this podcast:

The Breakup with Psychology Today and Navigating the Legal System With The Personality Disordered.

Many many people found help out of abusive relationships and out of legal situations with the personality disordered through my articles on Psychology Today.  My article, “When The Person You Love Doesn’t Love You” was a top 5 article on Psychology Today for several months.  I made next to nothing writing for Psychology Today but the reach was enormous and they sided with the cyberbullies, abusers and misogynists.

If you have an opinion about the actions of Psychology Today, who promised to keep my articles up, but took them down, please write to Jo Colman, editor in chief here

This podcast episode and the ones that follow were once articles on PT and I am trying, so hard, to spread the word that the material is now on the podcast.  Please go to the bottom of this post and forward and share to anyone who needs it.

Times are approximate

Pre-podcast introduction: 00.00
Story behind why this episode and why GPYB launched a podcast due to cyberbullying and the cowardly behavior of Psychology Today – enablers of abusers and misogynists. 0:02:00

Getting re-tweeted by Leah Remini turns my life upside down.

Accused of “plagiarism” by the cyberbullies at 0:06:50
The traffic on my articles on abuse and dealing with personality-disordered:0:11:00

What has changed in the legal system in the past few years and why it plays to the personality-disordered 0:12:00

For the purpose of this podcast, the definition of “personality-disordered” is personality disordered (PD) ex, most usually sociopath, psychopath or narcissist.
The psychiatric disorder can also include some borderline personalities, abusers and some “Axis I” diagnoses such as Bipolar when it is complicated even further with features such as psychosis.

In most instances, bipolar disorder is a mood disorder and is not representative of the behaviors indicated in this podcast.  For the record, in very rare instances, mood disorders can have complications such as psychotic features where the person is in an altered state. Sometimes their psychosis seriously curtails their ability to control their mood disorder and they can become manipulative or extremely self-centered and irrational. This article is not, in any way, talking about people with mood disorders such as depression, bipolar, etc.

This podcast is about those who are not just defined only by the DSM Axis II diagnosis.  Instead, for this article, they are defined as extremely unhealthy, toxic, self-centered, manipulative individuals whose life goal seems to revolve around making other people miserable. Their ruse is one of long-suffering victim and caring parent, when nothing could be further from the truth.

They are ENERGY SUCKS in the worst ways. They are draining. It’s so difficult to deal with them and a legal system which moves slowly.

The PDs and the legal and mental health system: 17:25
“Adversarial system” is how the legal system is set up: 20:00

The PD thinks he or she is a victim: 22:20

Excuse me, your Honor, you just gave this lunatic a stage: 23:10

To smoke out who the PD is, listen to the language: 24:00 (extreme, inflammatory, explosive).

This is NOT to say that everything has to be sent to a judge eventually, but THINK that if the PD wants to “up the ante,” you may need to produce evidence that whatever it is didn’t happen or isn’t true.

The PD now has technology to spread the craziness: 25:45

How non-PD (where no one is a PD) couples handle divorce: 27:10

Contrast to the couples where there is a PD: 29:00

ANY NAME-CALLING in so-called “co-parenting” email is ABUSIVE: 29:50

How to maintain no-contact with a co-parent 30:40

You have to PRACTICE boundaries and minimum contact (brief and business=like) with the PD co-parent: 31:15

Impossible to achieve this with a PD: 32:00

If a “co-parent” is characterizing the other as negative/terrible things, it’s important to tone it down rather than ratchet it up.

When you try to set boundaries with a PD, they turn up the heat 33:25

Responding or not responding to a PD “co-parent”

1. DO NOT speak to them via text or phone. It’s better to have email only. Even if they object, just say, “This is how I’m doing it.”
2. You do not have to answer diatribes against you. The only thing that is important to respond to is when they characterize something you did as dangerous or harming the child.
3. ONLY respond to things that bring your parenting into question and could possibly have negative legal consequences.
4. If the ex continues to harass, tell the ex that once you hit the insult, you’re deleting it.
5. Speak in “I” language.
6. If you absolutely, positively have to respond to an email to “make a record:”

How to write the email: 34:45
Introductory paragraph: 36:50
Walk the judge through the issues: 37:00
Correct any factual errors: 39:00
Quote lunacy from the ex’s email and then insert your response which is reasonable 39:40
Lecturing the PD in the nicest possible way: 40:00

PLEASE comment and ask questions for future podcasts on how to co-parent with a disordered ex.


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About Susan J. Elliott

Author, Attorney, Grief Counselor, Media Commentator, Motivational Speaker, Relationship Expert, Breakup Coach BA English Mount Holyoke College, magna cum laude, High Honors, Phi Beta Kappa M.Ed., Counseling Psychology, Cambridge College J.D. University of California, Berkeley Licensed to practice law in federal and state courts in NY. Licensed but Inactive in Texas and District of Columbia Creator of the Getting Past Your Past and Getting Past Your Breakup programs, seminars, workshops, bootcamps, videos, blogs and podcasts Author of Getting Past Your Breakup, Getting Back Out There and the GPYP Workbook
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