Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 36C Show Notes


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Grief and Loss Part 3 of 3

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Everything You’ve Ever Wanted To Know About Grief and Loss  

This Episode Covers A HEALTHY GRIEF PROCESS and what that looks like

Times are Approximate

:15  The first phase of grief is Shock and Denial. The first step is to acknowledge there was a loss.

1:00 When people first start feeling the very strong feelings of grief, they will fight off the feelings.

2:00 Even if you want to reconcile, the relationship you had did not work and has to be grieved.

2:40 The emotions of grief are intense.

3:00 It feels as if the Earth is moving beneath your feet.

3:25  What is a GRIEF PANG?

4:15 It is not physically possible not stop crying.

5:45 Anger is often a response to feeling deprived.

7:50 Are you being irritable or bitter?  Check your expression of anger.

8:20 Guilt: Link to Show Notes for Shoulda Woulda Coulda podcast episode

10:00 Magical thinking, a misguided belief that we have power over the situation

11:20 As the widows review the events leading up to the passing of the husband, many people review (obsessively) what happened before the breakup.

12:15 The Forgetful, Accident Prone, Distracted, Ineffective Griever

12:50 The whole world is disorganized.

17:00 If you break NO CONTACT, you will be stuck in searching.  Resist the URGE TO SEARCH

17:50 The Relationship Inventory requires RIGOROUS HONESTY and you MUST go through the relationship and be honest about good, bad and indifferent.

19:00 The Goodbye Letter.  After the Relationship Inventory, write the good bye letter and make sure everything is said.

19:45 The final phase of grief. Accepting the loss doesn’t mean forgetting or never feeling sad again.

23:31 Because grief is slow and requires great cathartic energy, you must take care of yourself.

25:00 Self-care while you are grieving is necessary.

27:00 It’s really important to find support and throw yourself into recovery.

28:00 The 3 Destinations for Recovery from a Breakup.

28:50 Right after a breakup allow yourself to cry, rest – be gentle with yourself. Balance grieving with self-care. You have to find time and give yourself cues to access your grief.

36;50 Why working through grief makes you a happier and lighter person.

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About Susan J. Elliott

Author, Attorney, Grief Counselor, Media Commentator, Motivational Speaker, Relationship Expert, Breakup Coach BA English Mount Holyoke College, magna cum laude, High Honors, Phi Beta Kappa M.Ed., Counseling Psychology, Cambridge College J.D. University of California, Berkeley Licensed to practice law in federal and state courts in NY. Licensed but Inactive in Texas and District of Columbia Creator of the Getting Past Your Past and Getting Past Your Breakup programs, seminars, workshops, bootcamps, videos, blogs and podcasts Author of Getting Past Your Breakup, Getting Back Out There and the GPYP Workbook
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