Don’t Give Up The Day Before The Miracle Happens

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed.

“….in the spring becomes the rose…”

Please don’t give up the day before the miracle happens.

I ended my marriage at least 4 years after I wanted to. The reasons were varied and complicated, but most of it was about keeping my unresolved loss and my enormous grief and abandonment issues at bay. I held onto to a horrible marriage to keep the even more horrible memories from flooding in. Continue reading

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Rejection, Disapproval & The Hit To Self-Esteem

rejection1by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed.

9 Ways To Bounce Back After Rejection or Disapproval Comes To Call

I wrote this a long time ago, but it’s true today. And I’m sending it out to a few people who need to hear this.

I have not edited the original (and Michael was here so he’s mentioned). Whenever I read back on things that happened when he was here and well and I think of the STUPID things I was obsessing about instead of enjoying my life with him, I get angry. Don’t let people rent space in your head they don’t pay for:
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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode 26 Show Notes

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast

This episode is Talking About Honesty in On-Line Dating From Little White Lies to Full-Blown Catfishing! And 7 Rules to KEEP YOU SAFE!!! Continue reading

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 25 Show Notes

Mean Lady Talking PodcastWelcome to the

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This episode is Talking About Destructive Relationships, Fear of Intimacy and Becoming Healthy

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 24 Show Notes

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This episode is MORE

Talking About Is My Boyfriend a Narcissist?  – Listener Email!

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 23 Show Notes

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This episode is MORE

Talking About Recycling in Breakup Grief

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 22 Show Notes

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Talking About Dating and Self-Revelations, Standards and Fooling Ourselves

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Female Stalking Victims: Emma Walker

I am doing an upcoming podcast on Female Stalking Victims, leading off with the murder of Emma Walker as reported by Dateline earlier this week.

I did one on Male Stalking Victims (leading off with Travis Alexander and Ryan Poston) in Episode 19 HERE 

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Blog Move = Broken Links (the longer version of the above explanation)

Broken links? Continue to find the fix: Continue reading

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 21 Show Notes

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This episode is MORE

Talking About Grief and Unresolved Losses

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 19 Show Notes

stalkingWelcome to the

Mean Lady Talking Podcast

This episode is

Talking About Male Stalking Victims

1/3 of all stalking victims are men.   It is TOO LARGE a number to ignore the fact that we have not accommodated them in the legal system and have not protected them as they should.  This podcast is for Travis Alexander and Ryan Poston.

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Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 18 Show Notes

Mean Lady Talking PodcastWelcome to the

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This episode is Talking About Self-Esteem!

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Dear Bananahead (or Bananaheadette)

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed.

It’s been almost five years since I first wrote this and I get a request for it every few months, so here it is again:

bananaheadThis is a convenient cut and paste for everyone who wants to go back to/stay with/can’t stop thinking about a bananahead. Simply cut and paste in the areas that apply to your situation and then either email it to the bananahead or, better yet, print it out and soak it with tears and then send it in real mail. Don’t forget the hearts and kisses.
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